a rambling

i think there is a lot of wisdom in the old saying, if you don't have something good to say, don't say anything at all. i've held to that. for the most part. except it feels like people figure you either a) are dead inside b) don't give a fuck or c) you can be walked on because you won't say anything. now between the first two, i don't give two fucks which it is.

but c.

c makes me feel (and sound) like a pussy. no offense to pussy cats but i don't want to be a pussy. i wouldn't mind being a big scary pussy..by which i mean a fierce, revered by all cat of the jungle. but in the traditional sense of the word pussy, no thanks.

c. i suppose c would fit best with the dumbest (sorry if i offend you, o empty cyberspace) saying in the whole Bible - if someone slaps you, turn to him the other cheek also. that is just ridiculous. here. you fucked my dog (i don't have one) you can fuck my goldfish also. no. that's just wrong. how does that teach anyone about anything? didn't God punish the israelites for 40 years just for saying, hey big God guy. i think you're full of it. you aren't really gonna give us all that land. God was a vengeful guy. something happened between the old and the new testament but that's another story. the point is, the old testament God was a mean SOB. you didn't grovel and you got set out to dry in the desert. literally. hairy eyeball His chosen people (i love Jews btw) and you get swallowed up by the red sea. have job-like obedience, and He tests the shit out of you. sell stuff in the church lobby and He'll sic Jesus on you to trash your tables. be disgruntled enough, and He'll send a woman with an apple after you. on that one..*pauses thoughtfully*....hmmmm...

point being. God. justice. it's in His blood. so then i'm stuck for an alternate explanation. i personally would be a fan of turning the other cheek leveraging a wounded up right hook. i mean, if you keep turning the other cheek, you'll a) run out of cheeks to turn b) your cheeks will start to burn c) be the most spineless human that ever walked this earth. i say, nail the sucker back.

and that's all i have to say tonight.

more on gender based stereotypes

on average, many stereotypes are valid *observations* (as opposed to an accurate description of every data point).

for example, the average guy is physically stronger than the average girl. where that becomes a dangerous statement is when that difference is valued to the point where, women (or men of smaller stature) are put down for not being a physical behemoth.

i'm beginning to think that my issue with stereotypes is not that the stereotypes exist, but the way in which the stereotypes contribute to inequality of rights or lack of choice for an individual. for example, going back to the stereotype of men on average being physically stronger - hence they are valued for jobs like construction workers, carpenters...and are paid accordingly. conversely, in conservative environments, women are slotted into childcare or maid work. all of which i am ok with so far. my indignation comes with imagining the reception a caring guy would get, should he choose a childcare job. or a strong girl who tried to become a construction worker.

i know we're splitting hairs. and i'm not sure how much practical use these discussions have. but i really enjoy taking thoughts as far as i can

stereotypes

stereotypes annoy me.

one stereotype out there, is that queer people are more promiscuous because there is no worry about unwanted pregnancies. i wonder if believers of that stereotype, know about birth control pills and what the demographics are who use the pill? or condoms? who buys the most condoms? i live in a college town and lemme tell you, most queer kids here are too busy moping in their coffees about the coming out drama in their lives or getting all worked up around another tree-hugging cause, to do much sleeping around. even if they did (or if they were pretty gay party boys), there really isn't much selection here...the queer community is pretty friggin small.

though that stereotype does bring up a happy point. straight people having sex worry about pregnancies and STIs. gay men having sex worry about STIs. lesbians...well in comparison, lesbians have a lot less to worry about. hmm lesbians seem to be getting off pretty easy. score. i'm glad i'm one then. i wonder if there is a catch...